Book Review, The Perils of Cyber Dating
By Julie Spira
By DateDaily Staff

Online dating has become the norm for many people seeking a soul mate. With full-time jobs and the like, it’s hard to devote every weekend to finding the perfect person. That’s why Julie Spira wrote The Perils of Cyber Dating.

The book is so interesting you’ll probably read The Perils of Cyber-Dating in one day. From the second I picked it up, I knew it was going to be an interesting read. I was sucked in right away – Julie Spira has a way of describing her experiences that makes the reader feel like they were there with her, experiencing her feelings. You’ll laugh at times and open your mouth in amazement at others.

Although Julie Spira offers up a real-life guide to help others who want to get their feet wet in online dating via stories that might send others running in the other direction, her objective is to help readers hone their skills on the World Wide Web and come out unscathed.

Having experienced over 250 dates in almost 15 years, some marriage proposals and a divorce to boot, Julie Spira takes readers on her journey, which started in the mid ‘90s.

From The Investment Banker to the Plastic Surgeon, Julie Spira allows us to be that fly on the wall as she vividly describes her dating experiences. But that is not all Julie Spira does; she also provides us with her “Rules of Netiquette.”

Some of the Netiquette rules include:

The Google Rule – Don’t tell your date that you did a Google search before the first date – She was Googled by a date and learned more about herself than she even knew.

The Body Parts Rule - Don’t discuss body parts – one date went into great detail about a colonoscopy that he had while they were eating lunch.

So if you’re a single looking for love online without much success, use Julie Spira’s The Perils of Cyber Dating as your guide to get over some of your worst dates and to look at online dating as an adventure, rather than yet another chore.

Highly recommended for both men and women.

The Perils of Cyber-Dating – Julie Spira

Two failed marriages, four engagement rings and more than 250 cyber-dates . . . Julie Spira brings to us her memoirs of her 15 years of online dating and a range of those memorable moments she has experienced, some great and others not worth the effort. For this book subtitled Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, she has chosen a handful of the dates, telling us a bit about the date and whether it was a success. From the Investment Banker and the Neurologist to the Latin Lover, we laugh, empathise and experience a variety of feelings when we see what Julie went through from being told she looked like a date’s dead wife to being proposed to with skywriting. An amazing read that acts both as a cautionary tale and a witty insight into the highs and lows of dating. (PP) Rating 9/10

This bestselling online dating book and tell-all memoir features Spira’s 15 year romantic journey in cyberspace. The book is a hilarious, witty, and heartfelt look into the trials and tribulations of dating in a Web 2.0 World.

The book combines the author’s fairytale romances and heartbreaks along with her personal rules of netiquette. Learn from an Internet industry pro who had to start her life all over again.

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Author Julie Spira encounters every breed of man in her new tell-all memoir, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

Online since 1994, Spira is a self-proclaimed internet dating pioneer, having gone on over 250 blind dates, receiving several marriage proposals and then marrying (and later divorcing) someone she met online. Spira has turned her dating horror stories and romantic journeys – both the good, bad, and, quite literally, ugly – into a witty memoir that every woman whose ever dipped her toe into the online dating pool will appreciate.

For starters, Spira compares a woman’s online dating profile to a real estate listing:

“In real estate, the first week that your house in on the market is important because if it’s priced correctly, professionally staged, and marketed well, it generates a lot of leads. Hopefully a qualified buyer will show.”

She also offers a “Top Ten Rules of Cyber Dating Netiquette” in Chapter 9 that is one of the best parts of the book. Here are a few tips she endorses:

ONLINE DATING TIP #1:

Don’t knock-off more than 5-10 pounds off of your weight or 5-10 years off of your age on your dating profile. ”It’s always best to be authentic and tell the truth,” she says, “but anything more than that is just too noticeable. You will find yourself meeting someone who won’t be so happy to see you.” In her list of common profile definitions, she also notes that if a man lists his age as 40-something, it means that he’s a 50-something who wants a 30-year-old female.

ONLINE DATING TIP #2:

Don’t Google a potential date before having the opportunity to see if there is a connection. Partly due to her own embarrassment over a New York Times wedding announcement that she wishes didn’t come up when people searched for her, Spira believes that it’s too easy to misconstrue or jump to an incorrect conclusion about a piece of informationwithout knowing its context.

ONLINE DATING TIP #3:

“A man should not suggest sharing an appetizer on the first date, nor should he meet his date for coffee without the intention of ordering a beverage.” Spira hates cheap men.

ONLINE DATING TIP #4:

Don’t discuss ex-boyfriends, ex-husbands, or anything to do with body parts, extramarital affairs, and long lost loves on a first date. Spira declares that information should be rationed over the course of getting to know someone.

ONLINE DATING TIP #5:

Don’t cyber-fight. Although it’s tempting to hit ‘send’ and launch an angry missive into cyberspace, Spira recommends sleeping on any upset or hurt feelings. “When in doubt, pick up the phone to get that real connection,” she says.

Even after two failed marriages and four engagements, Spira believes in remaining a “hopeful romantic.” She is still in search of her happily ever after.

For more info on The Perils of Cyber-Dating, visit CyberDatingExpert.com

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Spira’s book is a witty and heartfelt look at her 15 years of online dating experiences. With almost half of the U.S. population trying Internet dating, the book hits home for many singles who have searched for love in an online dating site.

Annette Fix, author of The Break-Up Diet will be joining Spira at booth #e56.

Who: Author, Julie Spira
Where: West Hollywood Book Fair, 647 N. San Vicente Blvd. West Hollywood, CA
Time: 10AM to 6PM (10-4, Booth e56; 4-6, Booth f2)
Cost: *Free*

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Los Angeles, CA (PRWEB) August 26, 2009 — Spira, recently signed to Columbine Communications & Publications for foreign rights representation, will be featured in their successful Foreign Rights Program at the Frankfurt Book Fair on October 14 – 18, 2009.

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Spira’s first feature, Secretive Boyfriend and Cyber-Stalking appeared recently on the dating advice site. 

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Looking for Love Online? The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, is just the book you need to take from the city to the beach this summer!

Julie Spira dishes it all as a hopeful romantic looking for love online. From her fabulous Rules of “Netiquette” that map out what men and women say vs. what they actually mean, to one hilarious story after another, she has mastered it all in a few clicks of her keyboard. This tell-all memoir spans over 250 dates in almost 15 years online. It’s a must read!

~ Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal, America’s Love Experts www.AskMattandTamsen.com